Contact/Bio

My name is Jeff. I’m a father of two boys: the eldest is currently 8 years old and the youngest is almost 5. My older son is what some people term a ‘late talking child’. Raising him has been a challenge, to put it mildly, but he has made some astonishing progress in his communication skills. I have been a stay at home dad at different times in my children’s lives. I’m not the perfect dad, but I think I’m doing a pretty good job.

Growing up, I never had a dad, as I was raised by a single mother. Having kids of my own has been a struggle since I don’t have any childhood memories to tell me what exactly a dad does. However, I feel it’s almost been a good thing, in a way, because I don’t have any reason to follow tradition, and I get to make up my own way of doing this fatherhood thing.

Currently, I’m 42 years old. In my early 20s, I spent a lot of time working in construction. Right after the 9/11 attacks in New York, I decided to join the US Navy and I supported both the war in Iraq and the war against terrorism. I have non-combat PTSD from my time in the Navy, but I can’t get treatment or disability for it because I had a Top Secret Clearance and exited the force with an Other Than Honorable Discharge. After leaving the Navy, I pursued a bachelors degree and my first son was born during my senior year in school. Surprisingly, I found I got better grades after he was born than I did before.

Bad luck and circumstance led to my failure to find a job after graduation, and I had to suffer through low paying jobs while trying to raise a family. After a painful divorce and even more traumatic custody battle, I am a stay at home dad again. There’s more details to the story, but I find myself in the career that I always wanted. Stay at home dad.

Setting up this blog, almost 2 years ago was a challenge, since my boys were always interrupting me while I was trying to write. When the court case over the kids happened, I stopped writing on this blog for fear of anything being used against me in my case. But this is all par for the course. This is what being a dad is all about. I love being a dad! Fatherhood has made me a better man. I not only want to reach out to other parents, other dads, but I also want to grow as a parent too. Having this blog and writing about my experiences is just as good as a journal.

Thank you for reading. I love you all.

It is my opinion that men are completely marginalized in the parenting business. Mom’s get all the credit and recognition for raising kids, and guys are still seen as a bunch of oafs who should be applauded if they manage to change a diaper successfully. Now don’t get me wrong, women do an amazing job raising kids and there’s no one challenging their supreme role as baby makers, but men have more potential and ability in parenting than anyone gives them credit for.

My experience being a father is nothing like what’s portrayed in popular culture. I’ve sought insight and help from books and other media, but have been let down because I have rarely found anything of worth or that which relates to my own life. Even outside the topic of fatherhood, I’ve found that a lot of information given to parents is exaggerated or untrue. I started this blog as a way of just opening up dialogue about things that everyone seems to just accept as being true or the way things are. I want to be able to not just change our ideas about parenting, but expand our way of thinking about what it is we are supposed to do for our children.

I’m also the father of a ‘late talking child’ who has made significant progress towards catching up with his peers in communication skills. My journey with my son through this setback has been challenging but, even worse, it’s been lonely. So I also started this blog as a way to support other parents who may have a ‘late talking child’ or child with any other perceived developmental disability.

I have a wide range of things I want to talk about, and I want to finally reach out to other parents as well. I’ve found it very hard to make connections with other fathers or parents, over the last few years, and I hope to work on that through my writing on this blog.

I welcome anyone to contact me regarding anything about parenting, fatherhood, being a stay at home dad, or late talking children. Feel free to challenge my ideas or add some of your own. For any questions you might have or stories you would like my help in sharing, please email me at thedisturbeddad@gmail.com . I promise I will answer your questions to the best of my ability, or I will refer you to the best outlet that might have the information you seek. I would specifically like to talk about how ideas of parenting are changing during this pandemic.

You can also contact me at:
Twitter: @DadDisturbed
Facebook: @thedisturbeddad