My name is Jeff. I’m a father of two boys: the eldest is currently 6 years old and the youngest is almost 3. My older son is what some people term a ‘late talking child’. Raising him has been a challenge, to put it mildly, but he has made some astonishing progress in his communication skills recently. For almost the last 2 years, I have been a stay at home dad. I believe I’m doing a pretty damn good job of it too.
Growing up, I never had a dad, as I was raised by a single mother. Having kids of my own has been a struggle since I don’t have any childhood memories to tell me what exactly a dad does. However, I feel it’s almost been a good thing, in a way, because I don’t have any reason to follow tradition, and I get to make up my own way of doing this fatherhood thing.
Currently, I’m 40 years old. In my early 20s, I spent a lot of time working in construction. Right after the 9/11 attacks in New York, I decided to join the US Navy and I supported both the war in Iraq and the war against terrorism during my four years in enlistment. After leaving the Navy, I pursued a bachelors degree and my first son was born during my senior year in school. Surprisingly, I found I got better grades after he was born than I did before. Bad luck and circumstance led to my failure to find a job after graduation, and I had to suffer through low paying jobs while trying to raise a family. Things were so tough that our household was on food stamps for approximately a year following my exit from college.
Luckily, my wife was finally able to get a well paying job in her career about a year after my second son was born and, shortly thereafter, I exchanged roles with her to become the stay at home. I love being a stay at home dad! I never expected I would like it so much or that I would be so good at it. Not just me, but many other people in my life have noticed a positive difference in my sons since I left the work force and dedicated myself to making the home, so to speak.
Getting a full night’s sleep is still a dream of mine. I still can’t take a crap by myself either. Even though I lock the bathroom door, my kids still find a way to unlock it and disturb me while I’m doing my business. Even setting up this blog has been challenging, since my boys are always interrupting me while I’m trying to write, but this is all par for the course. This is what being a dad is all about. I love being a dad! Fatherhood had made me a better man.