My name is Jeff. I’m a father of two boys: the eldest is currently 8 years old and the youngest is almost 5. My older son is what some people term a ‘late talking child’. Raising him has been a challenge, to put it mildly, but he has made some astonishing progress in his communication skills. I have been a stay at home dad at different times in my children’s lives. I’m not the perfect dad, but I think I’m doing a pretty good job.
Growing up, I never had a dad, as I was raised by a single mother. Having kids of my own has been a struggle since I don’t have any childhood memories to tell me what exactly a dad does. However, I feel it’s almost been a good thing, in a way, because I don’t have any reason to follow tradition, and I get to make up my own way of doing this fatherhood thing.
Currently, I’m 42 years old. In my early 20s, I spent a lot of time working in construction. Right after the 9/11 attacks in New York, I decided to join the US Navy and I supported both the war in Iraq and the war against terrorism. I have non-combat PTSD from my time in the Navy, but I can’t get treatment or disability for it because I had a Top Secret Clearance and exited the force with an Other Than Honorable Discharge. After leaving the Navy, I pursued a bachelors degree and my first son was born during my senior year in school. Surprisingly, I found I got better grades after he was born than I did before.
Bad luck and circumstance led to my failure to find a job after graduation, and I had to suffer through low paying jobs while trying to raise a family. After a painful divorce and even more traumatic custody battle, I am a stay at home dad again. There’s more details to the story, but I find myself in the career that I always wanted. Stay at home dad.
Setting up this blog, almost 2 years ago was a challenge, since my boys were always interrupting me while I was trying to write. When the court case over the kids happened, I stopped writing on this blog for fear of anything being used against me in my case. But this is all par for the course. This is what being a dad is all about. I love being a dad! Fatherhood has made me a better man. I not only want to reach out to other parents, other dads, but I also want to grow as a parent too. Having this blog and writing about my experiences is just as good as a journal.
Thank you for reading. I love you all.